Assalamualaikum!
Yes, I do accept facebook friend requests from strangers, only if we have mutual friends of, say, more than 50 people. So recently this guy has been fb msg-ing me saying he wants to become friends. I was skeptical, still am since I have absolutely no idea who he is, just a vague idea from his profile. So I gave him the cold shoulder, but I'm the sort who feels very guilty when I do it without any purpose. I didn't really answer his questions sincerely but nor did I totally ignore him either.
So in the end I decided to tell him straight that, I'm not meaning to be rude/arrogant or anything to him but I honestly don't know him so I don't know his true intentions and I told him that as a girl I need to be careful of strangers. Again I emphasized that I wasn't stereotyping him or thinking badly of him in anyway, I'm just taking protective measures. People who know me knows that so far all the guy friends I have are all either my batchmates, seniors, juniors or classmates. I have no guy friends outside this circle, AT ALL.
The way he approached me was not forceful in anyway so I was, oh okay. He didn't even say anything about me being so cold. So yeah. I also asked him what was his true motives of wanting to be friends to which he replied that he just simply want to be friends. So I simply told him, if it's nothing more than that, okay.
I swear, I'm not the sort who'd reject someone who wants to be friends with me in real life but since this is all on the net I'm a bit more cautious yknow?
And I read once in this book that Muslim girls are supposed to be arrogant towards guys, don't make them think you're so easy to get through. You have your maruah and you have to protect it, and thus protect yourself. But I do feel guilty, like what if he's really sincere in wanting to be friends but then I think again, no one knows what the future holds and anything can happen, anything can change. So I'll just take the safer choice.
I vow not to be friends with guys unless it's school related or it's beneficial for me to become a better Muslimah. Sometimes I think ah, if I act like this, when can I get married? Haha! But then thinking back, if he's really fated with me then he won't go anywhere. If he really is sincere then he will wait and respect my decision or better yet, be truthful about it.
I sometimes worry, since I don't approve myself of going out on dates etc, how can I get to know the person better, how can I be sure that he's a good person?
I thought about it (yes I've been doing a lot of thinking these days) and I made the decision that I'll judge solely based on religion, like how I'm supposed to. How religious he is. I don't care if he's not an Ustaz or from a Madrasah or what, but I want to know if he accomplishes his responsibilities as a Muslim or not and how sincere he is in carrying out prayers etc, that's what's most important. Realistically thinking, yes, money, occupation is all important to but I have to make my first priority in choosing my future partner religion.
Yes, I am thankful enough to be borned in a very financially capable family and I'm used to living like this and I AM NOT SURE IF I CAN LIVE WITH ANYTHING LESS. I admit.
But then again, this world is temporary. I'm living in this world with the motivation to work towards what Allah has promised us, which is Heaven. The most important thing about choosing a future partner is not to make sure that he's a good person but to make sure he MAKES YOU a better person.
But what if he fits that criteria but financially, he's not capable?
Frankly..... I'm stuck there. I haven't made a conclusion. But I shouldn't think of this too much though, it's driving me nuts haha!
Okay, it's past 12 already, I'm in Johor and I shall finish off this episode of xman elimination game before I sleep.
Oh but before I end this post!
SUPPORT WORLD AUTISM AWARENESS DAY ON APRIL 2ND 2012 BY WEARING BLUE OKAY?
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